So today I am still thinking about last weeks confessions. Still amazed at how hard that was to admit and how quick people were to tell me they had the same (albeit different) fears.
Now I am thinking about being real again. This week, in the news world and the blogging world, we have seen LOTS of compliments, complaints an even just discussions on Time magazine’s cover image of a breastfeeding toddler. Now I am not here to jump into the fray about that subject matter but felt the need to make a statement more about the headline itself.
“Are you Mom enough?”
This is gross, to put it bluntly. And so unfair. What has happened in society that everywhere we turn moms are now being constantly pitted against each other. Whether work vs. stay at home, breast vs. bottle, or even how pretty our houses are, how perfectly healthy our cookies are.
I admit to being swayed by it. Last week the confession of my house not being as tidy as my pictures was a hard one. Because that’s my trigger. Yours may be guilt over bottle feeding or not serving organic food. Heck most women, not just mothers, have concerns with their appearance and what that says about them (I FULLY admit to that one!). What ever your guilt is, it has to stop.
We can only fight the media by ignoring it. By showing our real selves to each other and embracing what we see. Don’t judge another mother’s choice. Don’t feel better or worse when that choice is different than yours. Because it isn’t. Better or worse. It’s simply different.
There are no awards being handed out. No gold stars to show off. There is just compassion and understanding. And the joy in living a life where you aren’t afraid to be you.
So all that rambling over, I thought I would share with you EXACTLY what my house looks like this morning. And since I do have an appreciation for pretty, I will admit to using instagram to make my messes a little more photogenic. :)
- hmmmm. The jam HAS been put away. The rest?…
- Thinking about doing laundry. Thinking….
- Figure out where all this goes. Here?
- Make my bed maybe?
- Yes, that IS a hula hoop on the table. No, I don’t know why.
And what is on my agenda today? Swimming lessons, a dance recital and somewhere in there I guess I will tidy up. Because I like a tidy sparkly house. I am just trying to tell myself not to stress about it everyday.
I plan to keep working at it.













